Being single, whether by choice or not, must mean you’re lonely, right? We don’t know where the myth came from that being on your own means you’re desperately pining for someone else to complete you, but there’s a major difference between being alone and being lonely. Even if you were in a relationship, you can’t be around someone 24/7 – you’d go crazy.
When you are alone nothing prevents you from listening to your inner voice, your heart, and your mind. Being alone is a chance to understand what makes you really happy. When you spend time with other people, you often have to make compromises. There’s always a chance that what you want may not coincide with others’ wishes. When you are alone, it’s only you who decides what to do.
Here’s why being on your own is important:
1. YOU JUST NEED SOME “YOU” TIME: It’s fun being around those you love, but sometimes you just need to unwind and do something just for yourself. Even if you’re in a committed relationship, it’s healthy to spend some time with yourself.
2. YOU DON’T NEED SOMEONE ELSE TO COMPLETE YOU: Single women get the lonely label often, but what people don’t understand is you don’t need a partner to make you feel complete. Sure, you might want a relationship in the future, but being single right now doesn’t mean you’re lonely.
3. YOU ACTUALLY ENJOY YOUR OWN COMPANY: Stepping away from everybody is actually kind of liberating. You get to do whatever you want without having to worry about hurting someone’s feelings. You can check out new places, take yourself out on a date, listen to the music you like best or read a book without anyone interrupting. It kind of makes you want to be alone right now, doesn’t it?
4. YOU’RE COMFORTABLE WITH YOURSELF: Lonely people usually aren’t that happy with themselves or their situation, but not you – you’re happy and comfortable with the way things are. You might have stress, but so does everyone, and you’re dealing with it. Plus, you don’t need anyone else to entertain you.
5. ALONE IS DIFFERENT THAN LONELY: Lonely people are often surrounded by others but still feel lonely because they don’t think others notice them. They often feel abandoned in the world and they hate it. Being alone just means you don’t have others around, and that’s okay. The absence of other people doesn’t mean you’re automatically lonely.
6. EVERYONE NEEDS SOLITUDE SOMETIMES: It doesn’t matter who you are – everyone needs some to be alone sometimes. Maybe you’ve had a big fight with your partner and just need to get away and think things through. It could be you have a hobby that no one else likes and you just want to spend some time having fun. Whatever the reason, everyone craves being alone at times, and even if you don’t crave it, it’s healthy to do it.
7. YOU’RE IN CHARGE OF YOUR OWN HAPPINESS: The need to be around others all the time is a sign that you’re placing your happiness in the hands of others. You know you’re in charge of your own happiness, and that’s why being alone doesn’t bother you. It gives you time to work on being an even happier person.
8. YOU HAVE YOUR OWN INTERESTS: Maybe you enjoy studying insects or making up your own dances to ’90s bubblegum pop. Odds are, you have some obscure interests that just make your friends look at you funny, but it doesn’t matter what they think – you still love your weird interests. You don’t mind taking some time to yourself to explore them, either.
Loneliness is not something to aim for, but being alone doesn’t necessarily mean being lonely. In fact, spending more time with your own self, without being surrounded by people, and without virtually surrounding yourself via all those social networking platforms, you can find solace in the company that matters most: the relationship you have with yourself. Call/WhatsApp Ms Seema Agarwal: +91 98205 76682