Is it that time in your life where you are hitting your 30s and your Facebook is endlessly being updated with #lockedinlockdown and another series of wedding hashtags and all you can do is sit on the other side of the screen and wonder if you’re too late to the race.
Most of us are conditioned from an early age to think that life follows a certain timeline, and that somewhere in your late-20s comes the time to settle down. Society gives us strict rules and timelines and in the age of social media, we can become especially prone to measuring ourselves against those timelines and what other people are doing.
So whether you are single or in a long term relationship, it’s hard not to feel left out when everyone else is celebrating their glorious relationships while you are getting increasingly anxious and possibly reluctant towards the whole concept of settling down.
What we do forget is that marriage is an extremely big decision and when it comes down to it, there is no ideal time to be married. Just because all of your friends are getting married doesn’t mean that you should, too. There shouldn’t be a time frame on when to find love because everyone finds love at different stages in life.
While that happens, here are 5 ways to deal with the pressure
1. Drop the comparison: It is human tendency to assume that the grass is greener on the other side. It’s more important to find happiness and be grateful for our own circumstances.
2. It’s never too late: It is natural to feel pressured when all your friends are all taking the next step in life. However, everyone’s right time for marriage isn’t the same.
3. Your life, your chapter: Don’t get fixed by other people’s timelines. Direct your own timelines and life chapters. Enjoy each chapter and make it beautiful!
4. Special time for yourself: Give yourself a little extra love and care. Don’t overindulge in online time, find the motivation to commit to yourself.
5. Be honest why you want to get married: It can be easy to get caught up in the race to certain accomplishments in life especially true when friends around you are all marking off the same achievement. Stop and consider where you are in life and why marriage is-or isn’t-the right next step.
Marriage opens a whole new door of responsibilities – towards yourself, your partner, and your future. Reflect and check whether you are in the right emotional, financial, and mental state to start the next chapter of life.
At Anantam, we are here for you so do reach out to us for any questions and to know more about relationship counselling or individual counselling.
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